I have been roaming around Dr.G's Site for quite sometime now. Sort of getting acquainted and reacquainted with different aspects of this lifestyle from Dr.G's POV.

Now I have glanced at this title "SEX: Qu'est-ce que c'est?" several times but never ventured a look until today.

I thought, well GEE, I guess it is about time that I satisfied my curiosity and took a peek. I had been asking myself that question and I was finally ready to get an experts answer. WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

What can I say ......... I still have the same question. Hey Glory ...... What happened to the answer LOL ??????????

Anyway I thought that the question would make a great topic of discussion because when you think of scening and/or playing ... I do not know about the rest of you .. but that is something that I think about.

I have been told in a variety of different ways that Scening does not necessarily equate to sex ..... ummm well I guess that is an individual opinion ... but I did figure out that I had better find out what someone's opinion of "SEX" was before I even considered casual play.

Please tell me that I am not the only one who has ever asked themselves that question and after that I would love to hear some opinions.

I thought that I had a clear cut idea ..... but that was in the Nilla world. It was really very simple then ..... sex was intercourse between two people. Hey ... since I was not well versed in all the different ways that one could be aroused ..... and my experience had include only "traditional missionary sex" .... I guess I should figure that I might be a tad bit confused.

Yes I have now had some other sexual experiences but .... I still am not closer to that answer.

All opinions and comments are wanted ..... asked for .... no let me change that to "begged for"

Storm

Storm,

What is sex?

Simple: everything and nothing.

Some would say that the only "real" sex happens when a penis enters a vagina. Yet, there are laws on the books regarding oral and anal sex.

Things get even more complicated when you talk about fetishism. ANYTHING can become a fetish. I've seen boards devoted to leather, rubber, short hair, long hair, shaved heads, running shoes, go go boots, stockings, hands, feet (by the thousands), lips, oily hair, eye color, dental braces, hair color, etc., etc. The list is endless. Even simple activities can be made sexual. I've seen several boards devoted to "lifting and carrying".

That's the thing about sex. No two people see it the same way. For some, getting and enema is an erotic thrill. For others, it means nothing. For that matter, for some, any form of sexual intercourse means absolutely nothing.

Some are excited by the thrill of the chase, some are hooked on romance. Some people vent all of their lustful energies in art, cooking, shopping or some other seemingly un-erotic activity. Yet, to them it is still sexual.

So, what is sex?

Everything and nothing.

Nightheron

Storm -- for me in my relationship, I can't separate scening from sex anymore. Is it sex if he whips me but doesn't fuck me, but puts me on the Sybian and makes me come? How about if he spanks me, fucks me but won't let me come? How about if he ties me up while I'm on the sybian and leaves me for 30 minutes?

We do endless variations on that type of stuff. It's all sex to me, even without an orgasm or penetration of any kind. Even if I don't get aroused when I'm whipped, it's an erotic thrill deep down inside that he does it.

It wasn't so clear when I was new and exploring. But I never really tried much casual SM or recreational SM because it's all too closely tied to submission and sex for me.

Where are you having trouble defining boundaries?

Lisa

http://www.section12.com/users/lisa_s12

I've been recently having arguements with my kink friendly but still vanilla friends over if S&M can count as sex. They still think that it is not sex without penetration. I keep telling them that you can orgasm, or be brought really close to it, by being spanked or tied up or anything else that turns you on. So wouldn't that count as sex? Hell, I can go on and on about the raging, dripping hard-ons I get by being spanked, and no promise of intercourse has to be made. So, I've pretty much stopped asking myself the question, "it is sex"? If I get off on it and if it feels good, then it is sex to me. As far as penetration goes, I wonder what my friends would think if I told them about the vibrating butt-plug that has been used on me. (I'm a male, sometimes) It is penetration, I did get off on it, and I enjoyed it so much. So guess that counts as sex.

So your friends don't think that masturbation is sex either?

Quick! Someone alert the clergy!!

:-)

Oh, they're not that bad Miss Brame. I'm pretty sure they count masturbation as kind of like sex.

if they walked in on you while you were being spanked, i'd hazard to guess they'd feel as if they walked in on a sexual encounter...

eclypse