No ... I was not going to leave this group out because you offer a very unique perspective since you have been in both places to a certain degree soooooooooo

from your point of view as the dominant side of switching
Do you feel that there are certain characteristics or perceptions that are sort of universally held by Dominants about submissives in general?

If yes why ...... if NO why?

What perceptions do you have that seem to spill over into your interactions with submissives ....
... the Novice
... the more experience submissive
... submissives that you know personally

Do you feel that there are commonly held expectations for a submissive and do you have certain consistent expectations of most to all of the submissives that you come in contact with ?

  and now from the submissive side.....

Do you subs think that there are any universal characteristics or perceptions that are shared by most submissives?

If yes why and if no why?

Do you think that there is a different standard applied if

...... one is a Novice
...... one is r/t and experienced
...... one is involved in or has been involved in a relationship as opposed to having only been in the lifestyle as a single or casual scener?

Do you think that there are sort of universal expectations .... from a subs point of view .... of Dominants in general?

and may I add that if you view yourself as either a top rather than a Dominant or a bottom rather than a submissive ...... answer from that POV.

Thanks bunches

Storm

The Switch:
Being both Dominant and Submissive
(Written by SteelSkys)

This is not the easiest topic to tackle and certainly not the easiest to understand. Everyone has their own beliefs on ANY topic, which is great...There is no way everyone can agree on everything, all the time...And that's what makes the world go around <g>
I want to try and express my thoughts on being both
a Dominant and a Submissive...

First, we must remember, there are many Dominants that Love and need to be topped and in many cases the Dominant is topped by her Submissive/Bottom. But we also must remember, there is a difference in Topping your Dominant and having your Dominant Submit, to you.

In other cases we find, where a Dominants Submissive/Bottom has a Submissive. This is all well and good, as long as all parties involved agree on the situation. No secrets, no hiding. Everything is in the open.

Now, what we can't ever forget in situations such as this, is...even though a person has both a Dominant and a Submissive side, it doesn't make them Dominant over their Dominant. He/she is still your Dominant and he/she still deserves the same respect from you as his/her submissive.

Submitting to your Dominant, in NO way makes anyone "Less Dominant." It simply shows that you can handle and enjoy the best of both world's, with no one feeling neglected in any way. Not your Dominant or your Submissive.

If by some chance the other party involved or anyone for that matter, DOES try to look at this Dominant as being less dominant because he/she submits to his/her Dominant, then there is a problem.

When you are in your "Dominant Space " that space should be respected by your Dominant but the respect you have for him/her should never be neglected. When and If feelings of neglect come along, then you step into another problem.

Bottom line is, be what you are, be who you are and never be ashamed of that. Keep your head held high, keep communication open with everyone involved and by all means, Show your OWN Dominant the respect she deserves...And that respect will be returned, not only by your Dominant but by your submissive as well.

Now have I confused anyone?
If the answer is yes, then good :)
That means I'm not confused all alone <g>
~* Steel...